Clean Your Sex Toys Properly Based on Material

Clean Your Sex Toys Properly Based on Material

One size doesn't fit all when it comes to sex toys, and the same goes for cleaning them. You can't wash and dry everything the same way—it depends on what material they're made out of.

It's important to keep sex toys clean so you don't spread bacteria to yourself or your partner(s). Health and beauty site Divine Caroline suggests adult toy cleaner (which is usually available at any adult shop) or antibacterial soap and water for all toys, with a few specific instructions for each material. (Regular soap should be just fine too, as we've explained before.)
  • Rubber/jelly: These are porous and can trap a lot of bacteria, so a thorough wash with soap and water or rubber-specific toy cleaner is a must.
  • Silicone: Silicone isn't porous so a gentle soap and water wash will do.
  • Glass, Pyrex, or stainless steel: Basically the same as silicone. Pyrex can also go in the dishwasher (as long as it's not battery or electrically operated, of course).
  • Cyberskin, Neoskin, and other skin-like materials: Depending on material, these can be porous so a thorough wash and dry is the way to go. Divine Caroline also suggests a light coating of cornstarch to keep these toys maintained.
Click the link below for more instructions on keeping your toys clean and safe to use.


Wanton Ceramic Figurines - favourite characters in s&m garb


These sculptures were exhibited at the Aqua Art Miami this year, and while we missed it on our trip to Miami, we gathered a couple of sentences from the artist’s statement on this work:
‘The contempt for effusive sentimental goods, that pander to nostalgic consumers led me to take these objects and disable them. In this process mass produced figurines become individual and surreal.  These ideas are in conjunction with Duchamp’s ready-mades, Rauschenberg’s erased de Kooning, Paul McCarthy and Jeff Koons.’


In passerella gli alieni fetish di Margiela Emmy Rossum

James Franco Finds Distributor For BDSM Documentary “Kink”: WATCH (trailer)

James Franco

"Actually, we’re pretty thankful for Mr. Franco on this one.  His latest project, after the critical success of the salacious docufiction film Interior. Leather Bar., has had the Hollywood hipster searching desperately for a distributor.  The Franco-produced documentary Kink, which details the lives of the employees of notorious fetish website kink.com (link NSFW), has now found a home with MPI Pictures and will be receiving a theatrical release in the summer of 2014.
James Franco’s next project, however, could be way less licentious.  Rumor has it that he’s been working on another documentary, this time dealing with the cult following around the so-bad-it’s-good movie The Room.
Kink is directed by Christina Voros.  The documentary explores the perception of the fetish and BDSM lifestyle and the lives of the adult stars who work in that industry.  It premiered in 2013 at the Sundance Film Festival."
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How Live Sex Will Save The Porn Industry

DVDs are dead, pay sites are struggling and porn is free and unlimited. Why live cams, Twitter and Skype may be the porn industry’s last hope.
Ruby Knox moved to Los Angeles six years ago to become a porn star. The free-spirited Native American, now 27 (though her online profile at SquirtNetwork.com gives her age as 25), says she was in it as much for the self-exploration as the money — and for a while, she found both. For much of the last decade, the San Fernando Valley — porn’s longtime hub — was flush with cash from DVD sales and an online streaming boom. Knox shot for studios like Hustler and Vivid, picking up a few AVN Award nominations in the process.
But this past April, she packed up her computer and and left the Valley. Now, from her home in Baja California, Knox does private webcam sessions for up to $15 per minute.
Knox is not alone. Webcams — or “cams” as they’re more commonly referred in the industry — were once an online backwater populated by Eastern Europeans and low-quality, stop-and-go videos. In the past few years, they’ve emerged as the driving force of a new internet porn boom.
For those at the top, the rewards are incredible. A popular model on a large cam site can generate over $40,000 in a single month. There are multiple revenue streams for a cam star, including group chats, but for many the goal is to find a “whale,” an online sugar daddy who might spend $20,000 a month on you or, even better, a member of “the platinum club” — the high-net worth fans who spend more than $100,000 a year.


Beware the Ultimate Orgasm: Autoerotic Fatalities //scientificamerican.com

September 6, 2013 |  blogs.scientificamerican.com 

The recent headlining report of a 70-year-old man who inserted a fork into his urethra in a misplaced effort to obtain sexual gratification—and who, in the process, unleashed a collective wince heard ’round the world once the x-ray image of hissounding went viral online—shines a light on the lengths some people will go to for an intense erotic high. Many of us might prefer death to the mortification of having to explain to doctors how it came to be that a full-sized dining utensil made its way into our penis, but nonetheless, this individual was fortunate that his dangerous liaison with a fork didn’t end tragically. “Successful removal,” the surgeons could jubilantly declare, “[was] achieved via forceps traction and copious lubrication.” Others in pursuit of extreme sensualism, in all its forms, aren’t always so lucky.
The exact numbers are a matter of some debate, but the pathologists Riazul Imami and Miftah Kemal estimated that, based on record-keeping of such deaths stretching back to 1791, each year, anywhere from 250 to over 500 randy people—across cultures and in every station of society—lose their lives as the result of an episode of autoeroticism gone bad.

3 Ways to Make Your Acting Dangerous //backstage.com

Even non-actors can spot acting that has an element of danger to it—even if they can’t articulate that it is in fact the sense of danger that keeps their eyes glued to the screen or stage. One of the major dynamics at work which makes “Breaking Bad” such a phenomenal show (aside from brilliant writing and great casting) is the element of danger that all the characters commit to fully. The actors on the show either commit to instilling their acting with such danger or to being visibly affected by it. These commitments can’t help but foster the very palpable sense that something really terrible may happen at any moment—which makes it truly glorious to watch.

It’s your job to figure out where the danger in the scene is and to consistently ask yourself where and how you can add a more genuine element of danger.

1. Surprise Your Partner. 


The Rare Fetish Survival Guide: 3 Tips From A Woman Who Has One

Molly Ren for www.thefrisky.com
When I first began to put together the puzzle of my sexuality, the revelation that I had a rare  fetish touched off a cascade of feelings. It began with relief, as I had finally figured out why penis-in-vagina sex had never worked for me. Later there was fear, as I wondered whether my desires were even safe to carry out in real life. But after a few months, everything had settled into a baseline of pure frustration.
It turns out that I’m into feederism—a fetish that revolves around fat, overeating, and weight gain. Four years of high-school sex-ed left me woefully unprepared for the reality of having unusual sexual needs, and in the beginning, I was almost entirely alone while trying to figure out such basic things as how to find the porn or how exactly to go about realizing my fantasies. For many years, I didn’t even know what keywords to type into Google in order to find the kind of porn I dreamed about (“fat,” unsurprisingly, tends to lead more to diet tips than videos of good-looking men joyfully eating entire cakes). When my girlfriends got together to compare notes on their sex lives, what was normal to them was no help to me at all. Even when I finally discovered a group of people that I was comfortable talking about my fetish with, I was still the only person in a group of 30 that had these particular needs. To that end, here are some of the things I wish I’d known when I discovered I had a fetish:
1. If you can’t find porn you like, make your own. 


And The Kinkiest City In The United States Is…

Guess. Seriously. I want you to guess. Rack your brain, think of the kinkiest people you know and where they reside. New York City? Los Angeles? Some Podunk town in Kansas somewhere? Where, oh where, could they be?
They’re in Phoenix, Arizona, you guys. To the best of my knowledge, Arizona has an awful lot of retirees. Does this mean your mom and dad, or Grammy and Grampy are getting their freak on morning, noon and night? God, I hope so.
SeekingArrangements.com, the website that matches sugar babies and sugar daddies, discovered, via one of those handy dandy surveys that, once again thanks to Fifty Shades of (why are we still talking about this book?) Grey, those seeking some good ol’ fashioned BDSM has doubled in Phoenix. With a 96.2% increase in those looking to vamp up their sex life with dom/sub hook-ups, Phoenix is at the top of the kink list, and San Francisco, isn’t far behind.
So who else is seeing the biggest increase in the kink?
1. Phoenix, Ariz.: 96.2 percent
2. San Francisco, Calif.: 95 percent
3. Detroit, Mich.: 50.5 percent
4. Indianapolis, Ind.: 49.7 percent
5. Las Vegas, Nev.: 44.4 percent
6. San Jose, Calif.: 42.3 percent
7. Philadelphia, Pa: 42.6 percent
8. Tampa, Fla.: 40 percent
9. San Diego, Calif.: 37 percent
10. Los Angeles, Calif.: 33.3 percent
What the fuck, New Yorkers? Where the hell are you on this list? No nipple clamps, or bamboo paddles for you? Step it up, kids.
Do you live in one of the kinkiest cities? Is this list fairly accurate, or a bunch of bunk? How many people actually even use nipple clamps?
arizona Travel Guide to Vacation in Arizona The Central Arizona Project (CAP), near Phoenix is a 500 mile long water canal that supplies Phoenix and Tucson with more than 70% of their water needs. The canal takes its water from the Colorado River. ..Phoenix Arizona. This city of 1,5 million inhabit
 Шикарные, огромные скульптуры созданные целиком из хвороста 


e x p e r i m e n t : Ping Body - Stelarc, 2005

‘Pinging,’ a computer networking term for a signal sent by one computer to determine the presence of another, is made corporeal in Stelarc's Ping Body. A remote audience could access, view and actuate the body of the artist via the Internet. As illustrated in the schematic diagram below, a website provided an interface to a computer-based muscle-stimulation system that permitted those logged on to ‘ping’ various limbs with an electric signal, causing involuntary movements in the artist’s body.  This resulted in a haunting dance that recalled Balinese shadow puppets, made all the more dark by the loud electronic music generated live from network data. While the artist’s body became a robot controlled by the Internet, Stelarc retained control of the robotic third arm, introducing multiple levels of control and communication in the system.  By directly connecting the body to the Internet, it was also subject to the random ‘pinging’ that takes place when URLs are constantly queried by webcrawlers to determine their location and strength of signal. The body itself becomes the object of inspection in the network, rather than the subject that surfs the Web. By exposing and inverting a commonplace practice of the Internet, Stelarc demonstrates, in a highly visceral form, the physicality of online media an d the relationship between embodiment and disembodiment in computer networks. 
[1] Edward A. Shanken, Art and Electronic Media, 2009, p. 155.
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e x p e r i m e n t : Domestic Tension, 2007

Domestic Tension In May 2007 he began a 30-day-long project called Domestic Tension which involved him living in a gallery in Chicago, eating and drinking what was donated to him. Viewers of the piece on the internet were able to view or take shots at Bilal with a remote controlled paintball gun at any time of the day or night. Yellow paintballs were chosen because it is the color of the Support our troops ribbon.

Bilal first got the idea for Domestic Tension when his 21-year-old brother was killed by shrapnel in Najaf, and soon after his father died. The idea solidified after reading a news article about a U.S. soldier in Colorado who remotely fired missiles in Iraq. He originally considered calling the piece "Shoot an Iraqi," but decided that would be too incendiary. Still a book was released under the title "Shoot an Iraqi: Art, Life and Resistance Under the Gun". The book is a combination of an autobiography and his path towards approaching and completing the project.

The number of paintball shots greatly escalated after the work was reported on Digg.com. By the twentieth day, he had been shot at over 40,000 times, and hackers had programmed the gun to fire automatically.[2] By the end, more than 60,000 people from 130 countries shot at him. Bilal lived in the room from May 4 until June 4; afterwards the room remained on display, uncleaned, until June 16.

http://www.academia.edu/739023/Wafaa_Bilals_Domestic_Tension_A_politics_of_performance_in_gamic_space - 100p.
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e x p e r i m e n t : 'Rhythm 0' by Marina Abramović, 1974

To test the limits of the relationship between performer and audience, Abramović developed one of her most challenging (and best-known) performances. She assigned a passive role to herself, with the public being the force which would act on her.
Abramović had placed upon a table 72 objects that people were allowed to use (a sign informed them) in any way that they chose. Some of these were objects that could give pleasure, while others could be wielded to inflict pain, or to harm her. Among them were a rose, a feather, honey, a whip, scissors, a scalpel, a gun and a single bullet. For six hours the artist allowed the audience members to manipulate her body and actions.

Initially, members of the audience reacted with caution and modesty, but as time passed (and the artist remained passive) people began to act more aggressively. As Abramović described it later:
“What I learned was that... if you leave it up to the audience, they can kill you.” ... “I felt really violated: they cut up my clothes, stuck rose thorns in my stomach, one person aimed the gun at my head, and another took it away. It created an aggressive atmosphere. After exactly 6 hours, as planned, I stood up and started walking toward the audience. Everyone ran away, to escape an actual confrontation.”


Bondage Benefits: BDSM Practitioners Healthier Than 'Vanilla' People //livescience.com

"We conclude that BDSM may be thought of as a recreational leisure, 
rather than the expression of psychopathological processes."

Despite the fact that their sexual preferences are listed in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders as potentially problematic, people who play with whips and chains in the bedroom may actually be more psychologically healthy than those who don't.
A new study finds that practitioners of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism, or BDSM, score better on a variety of personality and psychological measures than "vanilla" people who don't engage in unusual sex acts. BDSM is a sexual practice that revolves around those four fetishes.
BDSM is listed in the DSM-5, the newest edition of the definitive psychiatrist's manual, as a paraphilia, or unusual sexual fixation — a label that has caused controversy between kinky communities and psychiatrists, who themselves are mixed on whether sexual predilections belong in the catalog of mental disorders. As written, the DSM-5 does not label BDSM a disorder unless it causes harm to the practitioner or to others. [Hot Stuff? 10 Unusual Sexual Fixations]


AVN Awards 2013: Best BDSM Release

"The 2013 Adult Video News Awards (AVN) took place inside The Joint at the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas. Regarded as the Oscars of the adult industry, this year's edition, which also marked the show's 30th anniversary, featured co-hosts Jesse Jane and Asa Akira, as well as mainstream comedian April Macie and live musical performances by Tyga, who had earned three AVN Award nominations including Best Music Soundtrack for "Rack City XXX."

DVD Categories
Best BDSM Release: Rubber Bordello

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/30th_AVN_Awards - 2013

Best Alternative WebsiteKink.com
Best Dating Website - AdultFriendFinder.com
Best Online Retail Store - AdultDVDEmpire.com
Best Porn Star WebsiteJoanna Angel, JoannaAngel.com
Best Studio WebsiteEvil Angel, EvilAngelVideo.com
Best Free Adult Websitepornhub.com
Best Educational ReleaseBelladonna’s How to: “Fuck!”, Belladonna/Evil Ange
Best Fem-Dom Strap-On Release - His Booty Is My Duty 2, LéWood/Exquisite
Best Foot/Leg Fetish Release - Asphyxia Heels the World, BurningAngel/Vouyer
Best Gonzo ReleaseBobbi Violates San Francisco, Bobbi Starr/Evil Angel
Best Internal Release - Big Tit Cream Pie 13, Bang Productions
Best Interracial Release - Mandingo Massacre 2, Jules Jordan Video
Best ScreenplayGraham Travis, Wasteland, Elegant Angel Productions
Best Specialty Release – Other GenreBrand New Faces 35: Curvy Edition, Vivid Entertainment Group

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Bob Carlos Clarke. Shooting Sex


"One of the great photographic image-makers of the last few decades"
Terence Pepper, Curator of Photographs at the National Portrait Gallery